from The Wild Pair
Is traveling with your sister on vacation a recipe for disaster? It doesn’t have to be as long as you lay down some ground rules first. Here are a few travel-tested truths for keeping peace in the sister hood.
1. Leave the baggage at home. Traveling with sisters should be easy. You carry the same DNA. You’re alike. Right? Wrong. Sibling relationships can be fraught with the peril of childhood roles, divergent interests and unspoken resentments. So, no matter if you’re the big sis used to being in charge or the baby accustomed to being indulged, leave the birth-order baggage at home. Commit to appreciating each other as you are NOW and let the magic begin. The bonds born out of the shared experience of upbringing is like nothing you can ever have with a friend, partner or coworker. Let it blossom.
2. Privatize: Allow for private time in your itinerary. Even if you and your sister(s) are BFF, heading off on separate adventures gives you something to chat about when you regroup. Compare wish lists and decide which activities are best suited to individual exploration. If you love tromping through museums and castles and she thinks the perfect vacation is watching life from the seat of a café table, then one of you is going to be disappointed or resentful. Make time to break away and do your own thing. It will enhance your experience and the quality of time spent together.
3. Get thee to chocolate. Not much sweetens a disagreement or hurt feelings better than chocolate. If you start to get snarky, or she does, take two chocolates and another in the morning. If symptoms escalate, wine is also recommended.
4. Play well with others. Remember those grade school report cards with a check box for plays-well-with-others? Well the rules haven’t changed much. Return home from your vacation with top marks. Say please and thank you a lot. Show respect, admit your mistakes and never be a tattletale. What happens in Nevis, stays in Nevis.
5. Money, money, money. Communication is important when it comes to money, especially if one of you has to watch your pennies more than another. Sharing the expenses can be a big motivator for traveling together. But, don’t insist on eating at the most expensive restaurant in Paris and expect your unemployed sister to split the bill. Or, book $150 Cirque du Soleil tickets on a whim and then ask to be compensated after the fact. Be sure to discuss in advance your expectations for sharing costs, the level of accommodation or how paying for meals is to be handled.
CMH Sister Getaways
CMH has a handful of women-only adventures. A great way to explore the mountains with your sisters and friends.
1. Be Bodacious! CMH’s Hostess with the Mostess, Ellen Slaughter joins forces with Yoga instructor Angie Smith for a bodacious combination of fun, pampering, physical fitness & challenge, shopping and friendship. Bodacious in the Bugaboos comes in three flavours: Classic, Yoga and Bold offered throughout the summer at the Bobbie Burns and Bugaboo Lodges.
2. Stretch ‘n Stir Sisterhood. Join sisters Julie and Sandra for a weekend of cooking demonstrations, yoga and heli-hiking. Hike at your own pace amid the dramatic Bugaboo Spires, through alpine meadows and explore ancient glaciers with like-minded, fun-seeking pals and certified mountain guides. Bugaboo Lodge August 19-23 2010 and 2011.
3. Bikini Boot Camp. Calgary-based fitness instructor and Bikini Boot Camp founder Dawn Kosloski puts her own spin on a women- only Heli-Hiking trip. Combining high –intensity workouts with energetic heli-hiking makes for a great girlfriend getaway to kick-start your fall fitness routine. Bugaboo Lodge, September 4 – 7, 2011.
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