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How to inspire your partner to take YOUR dream vacation

Posted by Topher Donahue on Fri, Nov 30, 2012

It’s pretty easy to score an average holiday and hardly worth stressing your relationship over. But how do you convince your partner to take a really spectacular holiday, the kind you’ll remember for the rest of your lives as the best vacation ever?

It seems like it should be easy, if the vacation is really that good, but quite often something gets in the way. You’re not on the same page. It's just not their cup of tea. You’re having a bit of power struggle. One of you has ulterior motives that you’re not sharing. There are a million little reasons why it’s difficult to agree on a destination.

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So here are 10 tips to help you get your partner inspired for YOUR dream vacation:

  1. Take the trip they want to do first. If you're in a long-term relationship, there’s probably nothing more powerful than simply agreeing to do exactly what your partner wants to do this year, and do it with enthusiasm. Sacrifice this year, and next year you’ll find it a lot easier to get them on board with your dream trip.
  2. Do all the research before pitching the idea. If you have all the answers, it’s a lot easier to field your partner’s questions in a way that will be accurate and supportive of their concerns. Let them know you really want to do it by learning as much as you can, not by trying to argue them into it.
  3. Buy them a gift that is suitable or inspiring for the trip you have in mind. A camera. A book on the area you want to visit. New specialized clothing in their favourite colour.
  4. Have dinner with friends who have done the trip you want to do. Steer the conversation towards the trip, then let your friends convince your partner - not you.
  5. Forgo a few luxuries and then let your partner know you’d rather spend the money on your dream trip. Even if you have unlimited funds, showing that your dream trip ranks higher than other material possessions and experiences is a great way to demonstrate how important it is to you.
  6. Hang some photos of your dream destination on the wall in your study and office. They say a photo is worth a thousand words, but in this case, a photo might be worth a thousand arguments.
  7. Make it easy for your partner to say yes. Set up the logistics so they have as few excuses as possible by researching travel plans to fit their schedule and sleep habits, renewing their passport for them and taking care of all the details.
  8. Befriend their colleagues and friends so you can get them on your team to help convince your partner to take your dream trip.
  9. Research arrangements for kids and pets before even talking to your partner about it. These kinds of things can be the most difficult, and if you already take care of the things your partner cares most about, it makes it much easier for them to go for it.
  10. Don’t just buy the airline ticket. There’s nothing more stressful than suddenly being faced with a trip you have to take. There may be exceptions to this if your relationship thrives on big surprises, or if it is your partner’s dream trip too,but in most cases this is not a good start to a dream trip.

Any other good suggestions for getting your partner inspired for your dream trip?

Photos of a dream trip to Western Canada by Topher Donahue.

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